tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post4751731014582396211..comments2024-01-24T03:54:42.098-05:00Comments on a la mode: a little scoop for every slice of life: Stealth PerfectionismScooperhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13200593501887901812noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-79332235841670328772012-08-06T14:02:22.534-04:002012-08-06T14:02:22.534-04:00I can sooo relate to this post! Thanks for sharin...I can sooo relate to this post! Thanks for sharing.Shannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18179439386329629775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-20531685222796929912012-04-13T10:13:41.536-04:002012-04-13T10:13:41.536-04:00I really enjoyed this post - it was so encouraging...I really enjoyed this post - it was so encouraging. I can identify with so many of your examples! I never thought I was a perfectionist until someone pointed out to me a few of my quirks. And I asked, "How can I be a perfectionist when my house looks like this?" And this person said, "Why haven't you painted like you want to?" Well, I was afraid I'd pick the wrong color. I can't do something unless I know it will end up perfect because why would you do something only to redo it. And I will say that reading the Nester has helped realize that things are always in transition and can be tweaked. I didn't clean out our mud porch for 5 months because I had to have time to accomplish perfect results. After I read Nester for a few weeks, I just did it and figured if it wasn't right I could change it. I shifted my perfectionist paradigm to realize that perfection is not something that can be accomplished without trial and error and experimentation. I still think to myself sometimes, I'm no perfectionist and then I realize I get really aggravated when the cereal was not put back exactly in the spot it came from - which is the perfect arrangement of cereal boxes. I need so much help!:) SO MUCH. But at least realizing this has helped me deal with a child who might just be a perfectionist, too. And speaking of economic jargon, well, a friend of Nate's and I explained the idea of diminishing returns - because I really needed to throw away the ketchup bottle but Nate needed to get every single drop out of it. I am excited to be able to add more economics theory to my repertoire. :)Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14993705505529883950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-71019795240102438992012-04-13T09:52:29.462-04:002012-04-13T09:52:29.462-04:00Did you climb into my head before writing this???Did you climb into my head before writing this???Shannan Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06240696987027358314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-79627532609197929782012-04-12T21:04:20.881-04:002012-04-12T21:04:20.881-04:00My favorite part was the picture and my second fav...My favorite part was the picture and my second favorite was the comment about using napkins to wipe hineys....I am dead serious when I think you should link all your post just on perfectionism and opportunity cost, etc and put it all into one document and submit it...it would make the best, real-life struggle, awesomest book! You totally should! <br /><br />love<br />amy z smithAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-84137193643417439082012-04-11T11:17:11.704-04:002012-04-11T11:17:11.704-04:00Wow, do you live inside my brain?! Ha! The part ab...Wow, do you live inside my brain?! Ha! The part about waiting to buy things you really need until you have your coupons ready hit home and made me think about how absurd my "perfectionistic tendencies" can become. Great insight. Hope you continue to rest and hel in the world of "good enough."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-75547586863192979642012-04-11T10:57:03.932-04:002012-04-11T10:57:03.932-04:00Once again, thank you for another great post. I w...Once again, thank you for another great post. I was a stay at home mom until all of my children started school. I then worked part time in the school system and I am now teaching elementary school (same town my children attend school). As a perfectionist, I've had to let go of certain things and it's something I still struggle with. My work situation is "do-able"...my schedule is the same as my children's...same days off, etc. but my priority list has changed. Instead of a spotless home, I now opt for time with my kids. Don't get me wrong, toilets are cleaned (usually), everyone has clean underwear (though it's usually stacked in the laundry room)but I've had to release my "ideals" of how life "should" look. And though I would love to believe that my home should look like the cover of a magazine, it's just not where I'm at right now. But as a recovering perfectionist, letting go of the "should be's" and the "oughta be's" is a constant struggle.<br /><br />Too many words for a comment post, I know. Thank you...AGAIN...for normalizing those things I feel every day!Momof3boysnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-14304165799212615652012-04-10T22:13:34.338-04:002012-04-10T22:13:34.338-04:00A wonderful post, Scooper. Not that this is unusu...A wonderful post, Scooper. Not that this is unusual, but but I just had to say it. <br /><br />Your stealthy self and my stealthy self could be good friends. BFF's, seriously. Maybe we should let them get together and move to a tropical island? Where there's no telephone or mail service, and certainly no internet. They could keep one another company and bask in their self-sufficiency.<br /><br />Meanwhile, you and I could be friends without their interference. How would that be?<br /><br />I love the way your writing pricks right at my heart. Right there in those hard-to-reach places. Thank you. Bless you.Richella Parhamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04353214472648623583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-101377350652211152012-04-10T21:10:41.945-04:002012-04-10T21:10:41.945-04:00Scooper,
This is my favorite part of your post.
...Scooper,<br /><br />This is my favorite part of your post.<br /><br />"Confronting my perfectionism forces me to prioritize, to examine what I really value. Priorities may shift from season to season but right now, for me, I have chosen rest and healing and just the bare necessities."<br /><br />Amen, sister. That's right where I'm at. In fact, I just posted today about recharging (resting) and my the basis of my blog is intended to be about simplifying our lives to "the bare necessities". We'll see where that goes, once I find my "voice" in my blog.<br /><br />I admire your insight. <br /><br />Since we review our school choice a year at a time (or month by month depending on the year), I understand your decision to put your kids in school. I did the same last year. It all comes down to what works for each family, doesn't it?<br /><br />Love,<br />Laura<br /><br />Love,<br />LauraLaura in Montanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16994537803923133454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-36128221741077406072012-04-10T14:59:59.479-04:002012-04-10T14:59:59.479-04:00Great post! You're right, I want my brain sur...Great post! You're right, I want my brain surgeon to be perfect. And one more . . . my barista!<br /><br />LYF,<br />MOMJoanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03331962272800677142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-28741769280470147742012-04-10T13:56:52.312-04:002012-04-10T13:56:52.312-04:00I too have learned to let a lot go. In the homesc...I too have learned to let a lot go. In the homeschool arena (and maybe elsewhere) there is this ideal to do it all like grind your own wheat/bake your bread, grow as much of your food as possible, create all of your lesson plans, use only cloth diapers (using your homemade soap and hanging them out to dry!) It makes my head spin now, but I did most of these things when I had 7 little kids, but I was strung out. It was not worth it thinking I had to be Ms. Perfect superwoman. None of my kids will remember their bums being swaddled in cloth or what kind of wheat we ate. Thanks for the reminder.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-59640697253835746492012-04-10T13:06:50.118-04:002012-04-10T13:06:50.118-04:00I couldn't possibly LOVE this post more. I so...I couldn't possibly LOVE this post more. I so often don't do things because I can't do them the "perfect" {in my mind} way. I so do what you do about the grocery store savings...absolutely waste time because I know I have a coupon at home that could save me 50 cents off that deodorant that I know I am about to need...then I have to find coupon, then I have to go back to the store...It.is.a.curse!! I will have to try to remember that adequate is just fine.Fibro Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07071503333915785529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-21285110856113455682012-04-10T11:38:55.611-04:002012-04-10T11:38:55.611-04:00i'm thankful for your willingness to share. an...i'm thankful for your willingness to share. and your constant reminders that everyday has victories (large or small).Amanda Caldwellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17404973281991533112noreply@blogger.com