tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post7988573517279477288..comments2024-01-24T03:54:42.098-05:00Comments on a la mode: a little scoop for every slice of life: {Day 27} Real Marriage Part 4: The Myth of Quality TimeScooperhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13200593501887901812noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-35026735713831412772012-05-06T23:13:39.114-04:002012-05-06T23:13:39.114-04:00Scooter,
A great post. Very perceptive.
I'...Scooter,<br /><br />A great post. Very perceptive. <br /><br />I've always thought that the "quantity" vs. "quality" time is a bunch of hooey as far as children are concerned. <br /><br />You've made a good argument that the same holds true for marriage. I agree.<br /><br />I believe that having time apart can help remind us of who we were before marriage and children and responsibilities. I also believe that spending lots of time together as the "one flesh" God intended for us to be is indispensable to the health of a marriage, and as a consequence, the family.<br /><br />Bless you.<br />LauraLaura in Montanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16994537803923133454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-67508837150797931382011-11-01T13:26:25.477-04:002011-11-01T13:26:25.477-04:00AMEN! for us it's actually finding the time to...AMEN! for us it's actually finding the time to cultivate it on a daily basis - so easy to get distracted and off track with the daily living details...<br />BLessings<br />http://bit.ly/uqFMmKLibertyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12532992088083587595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-2627646714680315372011-10-31T16:21:15.408-04:002011-10-31T16:21:15.408-04:00Oh, boy. You've touched a nerve here, I think...Oh, boy. You've touched a nerve here, I think. I wonder if we talk so much about quality time--with our spouses, with our children, with God, whatever--because we WISH it were a true thing? Yet it's not, and deep down we know it. Deep down we know that there are many contemporary myths just as there were modern myths and ancient myths--and some of them we really, really want to be true. Yet they're all myths, and we would do well to admit it. <br /><br />Thank you for issuing this call to admitting it. You did it the right way--by going first. I appreciate you.Richella Parhamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04353214472648623583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-50407205551651361862011-10-28T18:01:17.140-04:002011-10-28T18:01:17.140-04:00I have this little feeling that for every 1 person...I have this little feeling that for every 1 person who posted a comment, there were many others who had their "hearts disrupted" and are processing. You have written an outstanding account of deterioration and recovery. Every married couple needs to keep this one handy.<br /><br />LYF,<br />MOMJoanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13995816573018539569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-88772711276973353232011-10-27T15:25:20.718-04:002011-10-27T15:25:20.718-04:00Love it! We have always done a lot together, and ...Love it! We have always done a lot together, and sometimes I look at other friends, those who DO spend a lot of time doing things without their husbands, and I wonder how it all works for them. So I'm thinking maybe it doesn't? I know it wouldn't for me. Adam loves to run, and I hate it, but I go to all of his races, cheer him on, listen to his running plans, heck, I even read Runner's World! And I do it because I like being involved and being a part of his life.<br /><br />"This is not the way of our culture....One can't say yes to everything in every season... <br />But saying yes to the best thing casts a new light on other things." Thanks for the reminder that what we're doing is our marriage is right and worth it even if others think it's odd.<br /><br />HeatherHeather S.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-61616237060146167552011-10-27T10:50:20.990-04:002011-10-27T10:50:20.990-04:00A good friend of mine had grandparents who were in...A good friend of mine had grandparents who were in love until the very end. They loved to do everything together. Not surprisingly, her parents have followed in their footsteps and - in their early 60's - also love to just BE together. I really admire that.<br /><br />I am a quantity time girl. I love being with my husband. Probably too much. But I still see ways that I could slow down and enjoy us as a family more. One example is on the weekends when I try to get more than is humanly possible accomplished. It's usually "divide and conquer," when it could be all of us together getting a little done but building relationships at the same time.<br /><br />Thanks for being vulnerable and yet writing protectively, too.carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14460660865881905507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-80777685317005725892011-10-27T10:27:14.372-04:002011-10-27T10:27:14.372-04:00Wow...that gives me a lot to think about today. N...Wow...that gives me a lot to think about today. Neither my husband or I really cultivate and do things together that the other enjoys. And maybe we spend too much time apart doing our own thing. Probably me moreso than him because I enjoy time to myself to just feel like ME I guess. I never thought about it this way before - how you've described it here. Thanks for disrupting my heart today! I probably needed it!Jennifer Owenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04607456428606933279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-78503753501983215942011-10-27T09:41:34.486-04:002011-10-27T09:41:34.486-04:00Beautiful!Beautiful!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1540171404871181369.post-26711560657790072052011-10-27T07:34:20.857-04:002011-10-27T07:34:20.857-04:00Oh boy...this one is really hitting a nerve. As ne...Oh boy...this one is really hitting a nerve. As new 'empty nesters' we are now finding that it's surprisingly hard to get out of the habit of having our own lives and schedules and making time for each other. Because you're right, it's not easy and it means sometimes facing things we'd rather not deal with....<br /><br />Thanks for this.Carol-Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11971833343080910423noreply@blogger.com